How does the strange woman work? What makes her so effective? That’s the subject of today’s study.
Pro 5:(3) For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
Pro 7:13-21 So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him, (14) I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows. (15) Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee. (16) I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt. (17) I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. (18) Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves. (19) For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey: (20) He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed. (21) With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.
The Strange Woman’s M.O.
As we mentioned in the introduction to the strange woman, her flattery is one of her most potent weapons. Solomon compared her words drops from a honeycomb. Her conversation is smoother than oil. Even though she is meeting a stranger in the street, she claims to have sought him out diligently. “You’re just the man I’ve been looking for,” she says.
Another part of the strange woman’s appeal is that she is the aggressor. She leaves no doubt that she is available and will to give herself to the man she is stalking. She grabs him and kisses him.
It’s important to note that the strange woman may be religious. She was going to her portion of her peace offering, which had to be eaten the day it was offered (Lev 7:15), with her lover. She mentions paying her vows. It’s almost as if she were saying, “I’m a good girl. I don’t normally do this kind of thing.”
Notice the preparation that goes in to her tryst. She has prepared a beautiful place for the rendezvous. She appeals to sight, smell and touch.
Next, she offers time and attention with no strings attached, inviting him to spend the night with her taking their fill of love. (The word for love here comes from a root word meaning ‘to boil.’) Part of her no strings attached offer is the fact that she has a husband, but that he’s away on a long trip. She is saying both, “I’m not looking for a husband, or commitment,” and “You don’t have to worry about getting caught.”
I’d like to make a sad observation here. One of the reasons the strange woman is so successful is that she does what most married couple stop doing – she makes an on purpose effort to communicate her desire to the man’s she’s after. Many couples stop trying to impress each other after they’re married. They don’t express their desire. They don’t take time and make preparations for their romantic relationship. The longings the strange woman appeals to are meant to be satisfied within marriage.